UGH, I HAVE THREE GIRLS

I love my kids. I love my girls! But I am so concern  about their future. Do any of you parents or guardians feel the same way I feel. I mean I know there are many of you who feel the same way I feel.  These times now are so different. As parents, we have to protect them more than ever. There is an old saying, “It takes a village to raise a child”, but now you never know who is in that village. Unfortunately, there are so many people who wants to harm children. It’s so scary. I have an 11,6, and 4-year-old that wants to stay over to their classmates houses. I am so terrified of that. Even if I have had a few of playdate with their parents, my anxiety level is very high. How do some of you handle a sleepover? I can only teach them to pray,  encourage them aware of their surroundings, trust their gut, and everyone is not your friend. (Exhaling) Pray for me!

UGH, I HAVE THREE GIRLS!!!!! Do you know the amount of hair styles I have to think of????? My girls love to look nice. They want their hair done every day. So I have to come up with hairstyles and I hate doing hair. I think this is why God blessed me with three beautiful young ladies because I had no patience before I had children. I did not like doing hair, so God was like, ok here you go, three girls with a head full of hair. So, my patience became slowly because I can’t afford to take them to a salon every week. Even if I could , I definitely wouldn’t! So, I practiced on my oldest hair a lot. I would Google kid hairstyles and practice on her hair. So for those mothers who think you can’t do hair, just find a style you would like for your child and practice on them. Take it from me, I had no clue about hair, but I wanted my girls to look nice. After a while, you will see your growth. Just take that first step and try. You have just taught your child a life lesson, “practice makes perfect” or close to it.

 

UGH,I HAVE THREE GIRLS!!!!! They are a blessing in my life. Through the ups and downs, my girls have kept me humble and show me how much they love me. I look at them sometimes and wonder why God blessed me with these three. Then I instantly thank Him because I am so grateful. My girls make me work harder and made me love myself more because I see them imitating me. I want to show them how strong their mother is and stronger they will be. To all the parents and guardians, I know how hard parenting is but we can’t stop showing our children the best and worst things out of life. Show them how to handle things the mature way when it gets worse and appreciate it. Enjoy life when its good and appreciate, learn from all the mistakes they will make. Our children are the future! God Bless!!!!

HOMELESS MOMS,TIPS FOR SURVIVAL

I know the struggle of being homeless with kids personally. Being homeless, was one of the most hardest and humbling thing I have ever been through. I can only hope by speaking my truth with give another homeless mom some hope. If you are her reading this or you may know someone who is a homeless mom, PLEASE DON’T GIVE HOPE! KEEPING PRAYING!!!! I didn’t want to hear this when I was homeless because those words didn’t put a roof over my kids and I head. But I am glad I did hear it because when the kids were sleep and I was crying over pillow, those encouraging words someone gave me help. I have just a few tips that help hard to save when you are paying so much and I pray it helps you.

TIPS

PRAY YOUR WAY THROUGH!!!

If you are living in a car, the best place I have found that are safe are Wal-Mart and some hotels. It would have to be a hotel that rent rooms for weekly rates. They will allow you to stay in their parking lot.

If you are living in a hotel, those weekly rate are the worst!!! But I have found after being in a hotel after a month or so, they reduce the rate.

For those of you whom are living in a shelter, please follow their rules and keep to yourself.

Your local Goodwill Career centers help with finding a job. They also give clothing to those that don’t have any for interviews. They also give interviews right on the spot when you go fill out an application.

Your local Department of Family & Children Services can help with food stamps and medical for your kids.

There are some local churches that can help with clothing, food, and prayer. I know it hard to pray for the kids and yourself.

Your children’s school have resources that also help with clothing and food. The McKinney-Vento Homeless Assistance Act helps families with children by allowing them to continue in their same school before they were homeless.  Under the act, the school will provide transportation to and from school, even if you are not in the same district. There are other things under this act, that your child is entitled to, please check with your child’s school.

If you are able, go to your local Goodwill and buy a burner so you can cook in the rooms. If the hotels don’t have a stove in it already.

Dollar Tree has a lot of items that you may need. The price is just right,$1!

If you have family or friends you can stay with until you can get on your feet, don’t be afraid to ask for their help.

Don’t be scared or ashamed to let someone know you are homeless, they may be able to help.

Mentally put your mind in a place of peace. Don’t think of being homeless as the end. Think of it has a place to regroup and bigger things coming your way. You have to see your life turning around.

Find a few positive, inspiring songs and put them on repeat.

Now is the time to use your talents and hobbies to make money for your family. Don’t think you can’t do it, I know you can.

Believe in yourself moms!!!!I know it is very hard but your son or/and daughter is looking at you and they will feed off your energy. You want to feed them positive energy.

Look this is not the end for you, it’s the beginning of your biggest blessings. You have to work harder but it will pay off. I pray this help someone. I would love to hear from other moms who have experiences being a homeless.

 

 

 

 

HOMELESS MOMS:DON’T GIVE UP

The struggle of not knowing where to lay your head is hard but it’s unbearable when your kids don’t have a place, too. Moms I know it is hard and embarrassing but DON’T GIVE UP!!! My three children and I were in the same situation. We are nearly getting out of it as a write these encouraging words to you. I know you wondering how did it get this bad. Some of you may be in denial. How you got there doesn’t matter right now, you must focus on getting out of being homeless. Some mothers will not understand being homeless but there is the rest that do. I want to let you know you can and WILL be out of this.

The first thing I had to realize is it it’s happening. It is happening RIGHT NOW. MY KIDS AND I ARE HOMELESS. WE HAVE NO HOME!!!!!! After many break downs, I had to do something. There are three girls who are looking at me, like mama what’s going on. The important thing is to not let your children see those tears. Be a super woman while in their present. They feed off our energy and lets not give them that energy of sadness or hopelessness. I know u feel it but it is important to feel as confident as possible even if you are living in a shelter, car, or hotel. You want to make your children think just because my living arrangements are not the best, it doesn’t mean I can’t be the best. Make sure when you send them to school, you tell them how much you loved them and that they are the best. Encourage your kids more than normal.

I know first hand of the embarrassment of being homeless. You don’t want no one to know, especially some family members but you have to let someone know so you can get some help. Your children’ s school can give you many resources that can help. It took me months to let my kids know. I just felt so embarrass for my kids. I felt like they were going to look down on me or even take my kids away. But turns out that was one of the best decisions I would’ve made. The school homeless liaison helped my children out tremendously. I was able to cry in her office and shed tears of joy. They are there to help, so reach out and get the help you need. The resources are in place to help us that are in need. Don’t think of what people are thinking of you, swallow your pride and get the help you need. Your kids are counting on you.

Now that you have some resources , make sure you use them. Now you have to do one of the hardest things ever……… BELIEVE IN YOURSELF! That is the easiest, hardest thing to do. I know !I know! Pray and ask for strength. You will get through this. I know people say don’t give up, just like I am telling you and you want to scream at them but don’t take their advice. Push yourself as harder than never before. Think outside of the box. No matter what it is, you have to believe that you will be bigger than what you are going through. If you have negative people in your life, this shall be their drop off spot. They cant and will not go with you as you climb your way back up to the top. Don’t believe nothing they are trying to put in your thought process. We all make mistakes in life, we have to take ownership of it and turn life around. I know you feel like you are the worst mother ever right now but, YOU ARE NOT! You are teaching your children (whom are watching you even more now) that when life gets hard or when you make not so good choices, you have to get yourself out. I BELIEVE YOU CAN AND WILL! I did it and you can too.

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